Interaction with your partner
Even in the best of situations, many couples find it challenging to discuss sex.
Choose a suitable time to speak. Sexual conversations can be divided into two categories: those that take place in the bedroom and those that take place outside of it. When you’re in the middle of making love, it’s absolutely acceptable to tell your partner what makes you feel good, but it’s best to hold off on talking about more significant concerns like incompatible sexual desires or orgasm issues until you’re in a more neutral environment.
Don’t criticize.
Instead of using a sexual issue as an opportunity to place blame, approach it as a problem that needs to be tackled jointly.
Inform your partner of any physical changes. Talk to your partner if hot flashes are keeping you up at night or if menopause has caused your vagina to become dry. Knowing what’s truly happening is vastly preferable to misinterpreting these physical changes as loss of interest. Show your spouse how to arouse you instead of letting her think she isn’t attractive enough to do so any longer if you’re a male and you no longer get an erection only from the notion of sex.
Be truthful. By pretending to have an orgasm, you may believe you are protecting your partner’s feelings, but in actuality, you are only beginning to tread dangerous ground. As difficult as it is to discuss any sexual issue, the challenge multiplies when the problem is buried beneath years of deceit, hurt, and hatred.
Employing self-help techniques
Become informed. For any kind of sexual difficulty, there are many excellent self-help resources available. You and your spouse can use a few resources you find while browsing the Internet or your neighborhood bookshop to learn more about the issue. You and your companion can highlight portions that you find particularly compelling and display them to each other if speaking directly is too tough.
Apply lubricant. It is frequently simple to treat the vaginal dryness that starts in perimenopause using lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid uncomfortable sex, an issue that can develop into a waning libido and escalating marital conflicts. Talk to your doctor about additional options if lubricants stop working.
Keep the physical affection going. Maintaining an emotional and physical bond requires kissing and hugging, even when you’re worn out, uncomfortable, or irritated about the issue.
Make touching a habit. You can re-establish physical closeness without feeling forced by using the sensate concentration techniques that sex therapists employ. These exercises can be found in a variety of self-help books and instructional videos. Additionally, you might want to request that your spouse touch you in the manner in which he or she prefers to be touched. This can help you determine the appropriate level of pressure to apply, from gentle to firm.
Test out various positions. Having a variety of sexual positions in your repertory not only makes romantic relationships more interesting, but it may also be useful for resolving issues. For instance, when a guy enters his partner from behind, the greater stimulation to the G-spot that results can assist the woman in reaching orgasm.
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