What Should I Do???, My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me

What Should I Do???, My Husband Is Boldly Cheating On Me

We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he
proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering
us to get married and start having children.

We started trying
6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months
later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this
year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying
his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her
power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their
friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she’s just a
friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his
goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8
months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home
very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he’s always
on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him,
he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the
delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way
it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost
everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and
begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the
first question he asked me was “where was it written in the bible that
marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different
women”, “why can’t a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources
to take care of them equally”(the lady is a muslim btw).

He
confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has
no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he’s going to marry
her. I’m just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn’t sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy.
although he’s promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage
to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is
killing me. I’ve tried to reason with him several times but I end up
hurting even more. I’ve been praying but still no change. He’s been
trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he
doesn’t want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family
will even worsen the case. We’ve always settled our issues ourselves
without involving anyone. I’ve tried everything I can just to take my
mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor.
I’ve been crying for days now, I’ve not been eating well and I have to
breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I
don’t know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I
hate my life right now.